NEGATIVE EVENTS HAVE MORE EMOTIONAL WEIGHT
The sad fact is that negative events in a person’s life carry much greater emotional weight than the positive ones. And those negative events – even seemingly small ones – have a much greater capacity to harm someone than larger positive events have to heal someone.
Negative pivot points are almost always the basis of struggle. I can say with certainty that all patients I have treated who are in the midst of struggle have pivot points related to the six categories of struggle: furyfear, addiction, shame, excessive desire for status or money, and toxic need for love and/or acceptance. And I can also say that I have struggled with many of these sources of pain myself. We all have that. Hence the Get a grip books I have written about each of these topics
Finding and confronting your pivot points can lead to a breakthrough to a higher power; that place where you no longer feel uncomfortable with yourself, but you don’t really know why. But how do you clearly define your pivot points? And what do you do with your pivots – the good and the bad – when you discover what they are?
GUIDED MEDITATION
I have had patients who had largely put their struggles behind them after a single session of guided meditation that allowed them to experience the pivot point again. Why is this? Because the mind is more powerful than reality.
Someone who can successfully reframe a negative childhood event—understanding why it happened and how to change it now from an adult perspective—can provide insight into disempowering events.
By exploring pivot points from the perspective of age, one can understand so much more than could be understood as a delicate child. There is a CD, or downloadable audio file, on my website called Wise old creature meditation who can help you with this.
The fact is that when we experience a negative event, the emotions behind the negative event are much stronger – betrayal, abandonment, fear, resentment, disappointment, resentment – than a positive event. There is so much more energy behind a negative pivot that it becomes a powerful negative charge of emotion… that is life. It takes more mental energy to defeat a negative emotion than it does to bring a positive one into our hearts. The rule here: love always wins.
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Derek O’Neill, affectionately called the Celtic Sage, inspires and uplifts people from all walks of life and provides guidance to influential world leaders, corporations, celebrities, athletes and everyday people. Distilled from his life’s work in psychotherapy, a martial arts career, and study with wise yogis and Indian and Tibetan masters, Derek translates ancient wisdom into modern teachings to address the greatest challenges facing humanity today. For more insights, listen to his free radio archives Discover more than 20 personal development books, including Stop the fight, Bullying, love/divorce, sadness, mindfulness, anxiety, stress and depression.
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